It would be horrible to kill your best friend. I get that.
But that doesn’t necessarily mean that you’ve learned your lesson and should
get off with just “living with having killed someone” as your only consequence,
even if your best friend’s own mother doesn’t want you to suffer, too.
BMW, taken by KPTV |
According to news reports, 18 year olds Yuriy Tasmaly and
Mikhail Golovach took a friend’s car without permission to go on a “joy ride”
after a night of drinking. Yuriy lost control of the vehicle and slid into a
tree. Emergency personnel responding to reports of a crash found Mikhail dead
in the car and the driver missing. Yuriy was eventually found about two miles
away and taken to the hospital with his own minor injuries and to “sober up.”
He was then arrested. Bail is set at $200,000.
Yuriy Tasmaly, taken by The Columbian |
Numerous friends and family have shown support for him,
including Mikhails’ own girlfriend and mother. Comments friends have made are “now
we all have Yurka's back because we can't stand the thought of losing him, too,”
“he would never ditch his friend. If I was in shock I would probably do the
same thing,” and “most of the charges are without basis.”
"Most of the charges are without basis." Vehicular
homicide, hit-and-run, driving while suspended, minor in possession of alcohol,
theft of a motor vehicle... An intoxicated 18 year old, using a car he didn't
have permission to use (whose owner reported
it stolen), drove while his license was suspended (due to previous instances of
recklessness and drunkenness), and killed another person then left the scene.
No basis? Even if given the benefit of the doubt on the hit-and-run (some say
he left to get help), there is certainly basis.
I'm sorry for both families. I
know that the pain of losing a loved one forever and of losing another to
prison is devastating, but there must be severe consequences for someone who
had already had opportunities to stop and learn. Sometimes prison is the help
some people need to learn they don't have the right to risk other people's
lives for their own selfish desires. It's too bad that not only the person
responsible pays, so do friends and family who love him. And it’s also
difficult, perhaps, for friends and family to understand that it’s not enough
for them to think “he’s learned his lesson, don’t punish him more,” when he
endangered everyone on the road, not just the person who knew he’d been
drinking and chose to get in the car with him anyway. Everybody has a stake in
this, not just family.
Ashawntae and Dustin. Picture by Jonathan Maus |
My son was killed by a drunk 18
year old who left the scene. I now speak at numerous victim impact panels
(maybe Yuriy attended one I spoke at last year), and I have also forgiven the
person who killed Dustin. I’ve even met with him in prison. But Ashawntae, too,
had already been in trouble: a previous property damage hit-and-run, possession
of ecstasy, etc. Obviously he had learned nothing, because he was still on
probation when he killed Dustin. I forgive him, I’m supporting him, but he
needs harsher consequences than just living with the knowledge he took another
young man’s life.
It is very sad what some people
do to other people and it is very sad they often have to learn the hard way. Yuriy
is lucky. He has a second chance... It will be hard but he can make a better
future for himself. And a safer one for everyone else on the road with him.